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Thanks for your reply and advice Maggy.

I can see what you mean and would hope that I wasnt too desperate. I have known her for a long time and think she knew I liked her so didnt think a few e-mails would be too intense. I'm leaving it at that now. Nothing more. It's her call now.

It's just strange when she's been so fun and nice in the past and actually when we last talked wanted to really meet up.

I'm not going to just jump in there on Monday and have a go at her. I wouldnt do that.
I'l definately ask her how her holidays have been. I got her an easter egg so will give her that and then leave it at that.
See what she wants to do. Her call.

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Have you ever bought her an easter egg before? If not, then I'd steer clear of giving it to her as it may be seen as being a bit 'pushy'.

If all goes well with her on Monday, then by all means share the egg ;)

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If it all goes well sharing the egg. buy some more and do it again :D

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For once Gary - I agree with you! :D

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That hurts to know :)

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Yes, I bought her chocolate before and we shared some chooclate the other day too.
Plus I told her I'd buy her one.

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I've just been talking to my sister. She's a female what else could she be ?


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:( :mad: :confused: :bigcry: :grind: :afire: :upyours: :drunk: :mad: :confused: :grind:


And that my friends, is how this thread ends, on planet disaster!

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Cue lights, Taras, theme playing and FINIS. Its a wrap folks !

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I'll ask then. what happened?

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:sorry: :hugs:

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She E-mailed me and wants to remain good mates, as in her words it is due to us working together.

So yet another mess up! Time to pour a good drink!

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And what if any lessons have you taken from this...?

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That all women are evil!

No, that right now, I don't want to go to work as I will see her every day and it will do my head in for the rest of the week, month, year.

It has taught me one thing though that I should have done something about it sooner as otherwise the feelings build up in your mind and that isnt good when it all goes wrong.

So, right now I'm going to get back to E-mailing her one final time to say I'm ok with being friends and though I'd have liked it to be more, I'm happy that we can remain friends.

Argh !!!! My mind is about to explode. I need a holiday.

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It`s not a mess up mate, so you`ve been knocked back! Get out a bit more and don`t try to find someone, they`ll find you.
Just be yourself when you`re out and enjoy yourself, it`ll happen, trust me. ;)
If something doesn`t go quite right, it just means that something else is coming up. It may be with the same girl, don`t pin your hopes on it, but it might happen.

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Thanks, I think I probably got too hopeful with this girl as I wanted to get over my last relationship that had been sadness and hurt for the past year and a half and I pinned too much hope in this to make things better.

I really liked the girl. It wasnt rebound or just wanting her for one thing. I truly liked everything about her, but I guess that for the moment it's not to happen.

I will try to be more hopeful and optimistic.


PS: To all that have survived 15 pages of this thread...... Thanks for putting up with my moaning posts.
I just wanted to say thankyou to everyone for their help and friendship and I really appreciated that.

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and they only want one thing. your body!
Or not in your case :)

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The lesson I was thinking was that you need to be a bit cooler, gain some perspective, and adopt a bit more balance with your emotions.

I have no doubt that you scared her off by coming in too strong, thats amplified in a work environment.

When you stop trying you will get on just fine.

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I don't always agree with you - but I think you have it 'spot on' in this case - are you going soft? ;)

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I disagree, I halcyon has been very open and honest with this thread and to us - very brave imo.

I'm pretty sure that he's not been so upfront in person with el chick. He sounds hurt, and cautious becuase of history, and second guesses his every move. He's so focused in getting this right and doing it right cause maybe that's how he wants to be treated.

...don't we all, but most of us either don't know it, are already in a relationship, have already been hurt and learnt... or live our lives miserable and sad.

My final words are to keep going and have some fun don't let one set back set you back (!)...life is short and you never know what's around the corner....most of it is pretty fun, so embrace it ...especially the blondes with the big knockers! ;) :)

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They hate it when you press the doorbells. :confused:

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Only one woman ever just wanted my body - and I think that was for medical research, as beagles were quite expensive

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I'm sorry things didn't go so well Halycon, but i do think it might have been a rebound thing. Give yourself a break and have some fun, get yourself out there and enjoy the summer. You sound like a great guy, so maybe if you stop looking for that 'someone' then maybe they'll find you :)

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Lesson to be learnt..........
Do we ever learn them?

Move on, don't go seeking a girlfriend, when it happens it happens!

Sorry, but best to go out with your mates, have some fun amd enjoy yourself.

Match.com worked for one of daughters friends though.
On line chat and banter is always a good way to get to know someone first (never thought I would ever type that), but it is sort of fun at times!
Just make sure they are not an ageing man trying to befriend you!! ;)

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Bad luck there...

Maybe you should join your local Monastery, after all as the saying goes...

What fun do Monks have?







Nun. :)

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Stay close friends with her, have fun together, and you never know what may happen in the future. I know this from experience ;)

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Thanks for all your posts.
I've looked at the match.com route. Don't know, but I may givie it a go and see.
Going to take a bit of time out to have a break from everything I think.

As for the girl I have a crush on, it looks like we are friends and having our usual fun conversations so I'l live with that even if nothing else happens.
If it does one day, great, I guess we will just have to see.

In the mean time though, I'm taking a break and going to start getting out more, meet new people, do something new.

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that is exactly the right thing to do, in my opinion - I'm glad you stayed friends with your colleague :tu: