Originally Posted by bexy

yeah i must admit a few of them are lads i've recommended the site to lol

stuart :notopic:

Originally Posted by stuartbe

:sorry:

Originally Posted by bexy

if you cant take it dont dish it out :rofl: :kiss:


newbies, my best advice would be to just jump in and say hello, or if you don't feel secure about that the pm me, stuartbe, or sociable....or anyone for that matter :D

Originally Posted by Incognitas

And remember that with every registration or newbie posting, you get a IJNAAIGWTCM.See posting #374

Incog. :)

Originally Posted by Keyser

Hi :)

Originally Posted by bexy

stuart :notopic:

Originally Posted by kink

Anyway stuart..... you do enough posting for everyone :eek: ;) :pp

Originally Posted by scastle

Erm, I was gonna make a comment about that, but... Ahem.. *cough*

Welcome to all the Newbies who have just registered. We're generally a good bunch.

Anyone who hasn't registered: Why Not?

:D

Originally Posted by stuartbe

No - gone on..... Feel free :D

Originally Posted by lone lurker

Incognitas has resurrected this thread apparently to try to encourage some the many 'lurkers' to overcome their shyness, perhaps to register and even to post. I am one of those lurkers. May I give my reasons for not taking an active part in this forum. I apologise for the length of this identities first post but feel this needs to be said. No, I do not have multiple IDs.

This thread first appeared the day that we were invited by Russ to leave .com and join the new independent .co forum. I was one of those who came across and registered on the first day and even introduced myself on this very thread using using my old .com name. I can assure her that the problem is not one of shyness and my reregistering now is for the sole purpose of explaining why some of us do not wish to join in here.

One of the very first threads on this forum rapidly turned into an any subject " almost chat" thread, this became the most popular thread on the forum with thousands of posts. It was stopped and (I believe) deleted by the admins who said that this forum was a discussion forum and had not to be used for 'inane' chatting (my word not theirs).

Look at the forum now. The upper half of the thread list (General NTL) is still relevant and tries to be helpful. However in Duffy's Dorm, although there is still the occaisional interesting discussion, the situation has mostly degenerated into farce. You have husbands having conversations with their wives, fathers having chats with their daughters, People even posting their wedding photographs (I have no desire to look at my brother's wedding photos let alone those of a complete stranger). Just look at the titles of some of the threads, do they tempt the 'lurker' to come on in? No, not at all. In fact, they give a distinct impression of utter drivel.

Going down (in more ways than one) we arrive at the feedback section. I will pick just two of the threads to comment on from here. Firstly the discussion about whether to make public the giving of reps. As a completely disinterested party, from my viewing of this (and previous rep) threads, the rep system is, as someone suggested earlier, very much a nepotistic system and not really a reward to mark good service to the members. This thread has been dominated by those who it appears are those with most to lose if repping is visible to all.

Secondly, this thread, since it was 'bumped up' approximately 24 members have posted (not counting admins). One person has made 21 posts, one has made 12, one 7, one 5, four have made 3, five have made 2 and the rest 1.

This monopolisation by a very few is repeated throughout the entire botton half of the forum and regrettably the vast majority of those posts by the monopolisers are utterly boring rubbish.

I apologise again if I have offended some of you. When I was formerly a member, some of you became good friends but I am sorry to say that there is no way that I or some of my contacts, would ever become active members again whilst this situation continues. Now, having put my point of view forward and I hope given a valid reason why so many lurkers do not become posters, I will shrink back into the shadows and post no more.

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Originally Posted by lone lurker

<snip>I apologise for the length of this identities first post but feel this needs to be said. No, I do not have multiple IDs.