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Do yourself a favour mate.....walk away now.

As other people have said in this thread, if you pursue this (or if you fail to take the right course of action here) you will be galloping up diarrhea drive without a saddle.

You need to keep in mind at all times that you are at work, don't be aloof with this young lady but try to maintain a professional air around her and in all of your dealings with her.

Be friendly by all means, but try to remember where the line between friendship and something else may lie.

The men in your office may be telling you to give her what she wants - you should remember though that most men think "harass" is two words.....

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Originally Posted by Incognitas

Back right off right now...It could end in tears.an affair with a workmate in this day and age is fraught with all sorts of problems.Have you ever had an affair at work before?

I did have an affair at work many years ago, when I was about 21 yrs old. The lady in question went off work long term with personal problems, the manager visited her and I was called into the office because it was assumed it was due to our relationship. It was assumed that I had something to do with her being long term sick and eventualy finishing work, the worst part was I knew the real reason but wasn't in a position to tell tales.

It did teach me a lesson, even though I am a terrible flirt with the women I know its safe to do with in work, I am probably known for my general lack of interest in women in the workplace. People who know me socially assume that I am the same in work, but thats not the case. I usually avoid christmas parties for that reason.

She has only been out to see me twice today, and was not so bad. I understand one of the older women in the office has had words with her. I think the problem is one in the office who is married and originaly from the South Wales vallies!!! always has a joke with me, and refers to me as "The dirty Welsh sh****r" I think this young girl possibly started taking things a bit far after listening to the other women joking with me.

I hope she stops it now, I felt very uncomfortable because she seemed so serious.

Answer to Zoombini.

Thanks for the suggestion I will try anything once, been there done that when I was 31 :D

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Originally Posted by Escapee

I was a little bit red faced in work today, and wondered what others thought.

I have a laugh and joke with all the women, sometimes we get a new one who doesn't know quite how to take me, but when they realise I am having a bit of fun they are as bad as the rest. I never mix business with pleasure after having a bad experience many years ago, and I'm not a touchy-feely person.

We have a new girl in the office 18-19 yrs old, a few of the guys have said she looks very attractive but I had not really looked. Last week I had to go and see her about some paperwork and she bent forward laying out all the papers on the floor, I looked away because I could see straight down her trousers and her thong was on display. I didn't want anyone else in that office to catch me looking, but she did exactly the same thing again a day or two later. She seems to make excuses to come out and see me about paperwork every now and again, she came in monday and mentioned very suggestively that she was looking for me on friday afternoon and had wanted to push all my buttons. (reference to racks of equipment I'm working on)

Later in the day she came out with some more paperwork and knelt down in front of me after I had swivelled around on my chair to talk to her, again I had to look away because I could see straight down her top. She then got up holding the paperwork in her left had and to her left side, she proceeded to raise her top and scratch under her right breast with her right hand.
I decided at this point that she probably wasn't naive as I first thought because I thought shes doing that and looking away so I can get an eyeful.

Today she came out and remarked what an interesting job I had and how she would like to be working with us, later on I was at the stores hatch leaning on the counter. I saw her approach out of the corner of my eye, and her hand came down to open the half door that I was standing against. Her hand brushed past my lower regions and I stepped back, after she was in the stores she turned around closed the door and said "ooooh that was a bit rude wasn't it" I had turned quite red at this point, if it had been any of the other women that I have a laugh and joke with, I would of probably told them to come back and have another go.

I'm no overly concerned, but theres no way I am going to make a move towards her. At first I thought she was naive and being 20 years younger than me wasn't thinking along those lines. It has made me realise its far more difficult for a bloke in these circumstances, because unless a few other guys had seen it, no-one would take it serious.

Of course the guys are joking and saying "if you dont give her what she's after, she will report you for harassment" I am going to keep my distance from now on, the last thing I need is anything like that in work.

My girlfriend was very supportive when I told her, she said "Give it a go" :shocked:

Sounds like 3 in your house at some time :tu: :D

Now is a good time to "come out" Kev. :)

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Originally Posted by Julian

Now is a good time to "come out" Kev. :)

No sorry to dissapoint you, it wasn't that configuration. I better not go down that route and say anymore about it........lol

The work situation has been a little serious to say the least, its a good job that quite a few around me noticed after I alerted them. She seemed to be doing it to me under everyone elses nose and they didn't notice.

I am getting more of a ribbing from the other women than the men about it today, they are saying I'm a dissapointment, all mouth and no trousers.

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Originally Posted by Escapee

You sure. She might be all mouth.:D Maybe she needs a good stiff talking too:tu: . No doubt I'll get reported for this post. But some had to say it and I'd rather it me me me me me:D

I say back off, and ask her to keep it proffesional, there is a few reasons why,

It has been know for newcomers to

1) use there looks to flirt there ways into promotion

2) enjoy rejecting guys to gain power over the office

3) worse yet she could cry sexual harrasment and try to get money from you.

Be VERY careful to be honest even asking for a drink out could be a sign to her that your interested.

I would tread lighter then you would on egg shells.

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Originally Posted by Escapee

Nah! You just went up in their estimation really.. :tu:

With all the serious talk around this site at the moment, I thought I would lighten it up with my red face.

The young lady in question is on hoiday this week, I went into the office this morning and one of the other women told me what was said last week to make her loose interest.

I have a cut on my cheek/neck and had a plaster over it last week, a comment was made about it in conversation between them. One of the older women said "He probably gut cut during some sex game with a big overpowering women" the young girl said "Does he like big women" older one says "Yes, and he prefers them large and black"

Apparently her face sank as she got the message. ;)

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Originally Posted by Escapee

But was it true? ;) :p:

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Originally Posted by Paul

But was it true? ;) :p:

Yes :)

Would never deny it.

Aww so she was after you....poor girl you may have broken her heart http://bestsmileys.com/sad/6.gif

Get a photo of some big fat black bird & put it on your desk... :-)

Just found this thread......pmsl @ some of the comments......great start to the day :tu: :D :rofl:

Why dont you "announce" that you and your girlfriend have set a date for the wedding?

See what she does.

You could try flirting back with one of the other women and ignoring her, see if anything is said to the other women.

Most women like this turn out to be bunny boilers, it strikes me that they think its a game and when it doesnt work they turn back into pyscho bitches from hell.