basa
31-08-2004, 11:50
I fell out with my parents 10 years ago and have never spoken to them (or my siblings) since, whilst my partner was 'invited' to leave home at 16 ! :erm:
Neither set of 'parents' have ever baby sat our children, provided moral support or assisted us financially, we never visit them nor they us. :erm:
As a child I do not recall any one to one 'play' or help with schoolwork, I was rarely asked an opinion on family matters - children were 'seen not heard'. My parents felt they and only they had a right to dictate my life decisions, I was never offered impartial advice. My partner suffered both physical (not intimate) and psychological abuse from her parents, siblings and at school. :mad:
We all find it difficult to make (or even want to make) real, close friends. But do we really need them ?
Although I must stress I don't feel regret for this situation (c'est la vie), I feel I probably have missed out on a lot, my partner and my children are alone in the world. But on the other hand we have no ties and no obligations to anyone except our own immediate family. Any decisions we make are totally our own and are made solely to suit our own needs. We have managed to run our lives satisfactorily so far with out outside help. :cool:
Are you close to your family ? How does this affect your life and life decisions ? Do you sometimes wish you could run your own life without reference to any one else outside your own (i.e. parner and kids) family or do you rely on extended family support ? Do you feel better or worse off being close or not close to you parents or siblings ? :erm:
Neither set of 'parents' have ever baby sat our children, provided moral support or assisted us financially, we never visit them nor they us. :erm:
As a child I do not recall any one to one 'play' or help with schoolwork, I was rarely asked an opinion on family matters - children were 'seen not heard'. My parents felt they and only they had a right to dictate my life decisions, I was never offered impartial advice. My partner suffered both physical (not intimate) and psychological abuse from her parents, siblings and at school. :mad:
We all find it difficult to make (or even want to make) real, close friends. But do we really need them ?
Although I must stress I don't feel regret for this situation (c'est la vie), I feel I probably have missed out on a lot, my partner and my children are alone in the world. But on the other hand we have no ties and no obligations to anyone except our own immediate family. Any decisions we make are totally our own and are made solely to suit our own needs. We have managed to run our lives satisfactorily so far with out outside help. :cool:
Are you close to your family ? How does this affect your life and life decisions ? Do you sometimes wish you could run your own life without reference to any one else outside your own (i.e. parner and kids) family or do you rely on extended family support ? Do you feel better or worse off being close or not close to you parents or siblings ? :erm: